Every spring it happens.
The air shifts.
And I question my life.
Not dramatically.
Not in a way I’d say out loud.
Just quietly.
In the car.
At the window.
In between clients.
Something wakes up in me when the weather breaks—
and it starts asking questions
I’ve been too busy to sit with all winter.
Am I actually living—
or am I just managing?
Because there’s a version of me
that wants to be completely free of all of it.
Not forever.
Just for a while.
To exist somewhere
without being needed.
Without being responsible.
Without being the answer.
She wants to be somewhere warm,
near water,
phone off,
nothing required of her.
No decisions.
No schedule.
No one waiting on her response.
And if I’m being honest—
it’s not even about the place.
It’s this:
👉 Someone else taking the wheel.
👉 Someone else thinking ahead.
👉 Someone else carrying something
before I even have to say it.
Being cared for
the way you care for everyone else.
Without asking.
Without explaining.
Without managing it.
And then the other voice shows up.
Girl, get ya life.
If you put it down, it doesn’t get done.
If you slow down, the ship sinks.
Your kids.
Your business.
Your life.
They all depend on you.
This is what stress actually looks like in April.
Not a breakdown.
Not a crisis.
Two sides of the same woman—
fighting.
One who is exhausted
from being load-bearing
and just wants someone to carry her for once.
And one who has convinced herself
that wanting that makes her weak.
Ungrateful.
Irresponsible.
You might not call it stress.
But your body already is.
It’s April now.
The January energy is gone.
The reset didn’t stick.
And here you are—
doing what you always do.
Managing.
Moving.
Holding it together.
So let me ask you something,
and I want you to answer it honestly:
When was the last time someone just handled something for you,
without you having to ask, explain, or follow up?
How did it feel?
And if you can’t remember,
what does that tell you?
April Stress Check-In
Not a reset.
Not a plan.
Just awareness.
1. What is the caged feeling actually saying?
Not what you should do about it.
What is it trying to tell you?
2. Where are you choosing the “island”—even in small ways?
The backyard.
The long shower.
The show that asks nothing from you.
Name it—without judging it.
3. What would it feel like to let someone else hold one thing this week?
Not everything.
Just one thing.
What comes up when you imagine it?
The woman who wants to be free,
is not the problem.
She’s not dramatic.
She’s not irresponsible.
She’s the part of you that remembers
you were a whole person
before you became everyone’s answer.
She’s worth listening to.
If this hit…
If you’re tired of carrying everything
and calling it “normal”—
this is exactly what we’re working on May 5th.
Regulated: A Workshop for Women Who Hold It All
7:30 PM ET • Live Virtual • 90 minutes
This isn’t about escaping your life.
It’s about learning how to live it
without being in a constant state of pressure.
Early bird ends April 14th.
Use code SOFTER10 for $10 off.
👉 Register here:
— Moya
On the Mend