Overfunctioning

Sometimes I Don’t Want Anyone to Need Me

Because being needed and being loved are not the same thing.

I Think I Can Trust Her Now

Maybe self-trust isn’t something you find. Maybe it’s something you practice.

Nobody Talks About the Messy Middle

Healing isn’t linear. Sometimes fear skips every chapter of growth and rushes straight to the ending.

What happens when I start changing?

I thought healing would feel like peace. I didn’t expect it to feel so unfamiliar.

I forgot what it felt like to just enjoy someone.

No monitoring. No fixing. No worrying. Just love.

Oh, worry. Can we break up, please?

I’ve been asking myself a question all week: What would my life feel like if I trusted more and worried less?

Are you safe right now?

Not tomorrow. Not next week. Right now.

My brain keeps asking the same question.

What if it doesn’t work out?

I thought being “low maintenance” was a good thing.

Now I realize it was survival.

My mama drove to work with a head injury. Now I understand everything.

Overfunctioning didn’t start with me.

I thought everything would fall apart if I stopped.

I realized I was the bottleneck

Where am I supposed to find time for self-care?

I said it out loud last week. And caught myself.

I saw the vacation posts. Then I got to work.

That told me everything about how I cope.

I want you in the room.

This isn’t just thoughtfulness

There’s a line. Most of us missed it.

Why do I have to tell you?

This is where the resentment starts

The night I didn’t clean the kitchen

What one messy kitchen taught me about overfunctioning.

Overfunctioning and High-Functioning Anxiety: Why Some Women Feel They Have to Earn Love

She thought she was being strong. She was actually trying to be chosen.

This one might sting a little

Sometimes giving them more is actually about us.

What She’s Been Watching

“If you’re the strong one, read this.”